How to Seduce your Guy in 31 Days [Day 5]

Sometimes the experts know what they are talking about. Would you agree?

From self-help books to online articles, you can find a wealth of information related to loving your spouse.
Of course, depending on your mindset, you can keep this particular completely on the G rating or you can go as far as Triple X. Wait... is that a movie? With Vin Diesel? Hmmm. Just checked, it is... but, it doesn't have Paul Walker, so I am not wasting time on it. I meant the other XXX...

Since I am trying to keep most of this series out of the bedroom (notice I said "most") - let's talk about general research on how to make your guy feel like your main squeeze.

There were some lists/sites that suggested that you (or me) as a wife may not be equal to her man. As if the wife isn't contributing just as much or more than the husband. For example... one list was 101 entries long that stated you should "keep the kids away from your husband during the first few minutes after he gets home from work." And "you should not bother your husband with anything for the first hour after he gets home from work." I could go on... obviously the author of that particular list did. But I won't. Instead, I am going to change it up a little.

In doing my research, I found a great online article that CLICKED for me.

Five Things Your Husband Wishes You'd Know, but Won't Tell You.
You can find the article in its entirety here, but here is the list in a nutshell, literally:

Some of those are abbreviated, so please go check out the full article by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin. It's one I am going to keep bookmarked.

Lessons Learned:

1) Don't let the husband see this post for the following reasons:

• He likes red-heads
• He will realize that I get my "smarts" from other people
• He may decide he needs some Pistachios for his snacking needs

2) Do your research... see what other people are doing.
3) Don't be scared to try out a few things you've read about. The worse that can happen is your hubby gives you a weird look and walks away. Which gives you time to watch America's Next Top Model without him complaining about you hogging the DVR.

Stuffing the Billy's

Another sneak peak of what I have been trying to work on the past few days.
Pimpin' ain't easy folks and neither is finding THE RIGHT accessories to add to the wall of Billy's.

Here is the BEFORE:

And here is the NOW:

Yes, there is some Halloween stuff showing up on a few of the shelves. I couldn't help myself.

More to come... ;)

How to Seduce your Guy in 31 Days [Day 4]

My husband loves him some chocolate chip cookies. Especially if I add some chopped walnuts to the mix. However, the task of making cookies seems daunting to me. Every time.

And every time, when they are made and he is HAPPY, I realize it wasn't such a chore; I should do it more often.

I went to the store this weekend and picked up a few things... and unbeknownst to him, I made cookies on Sunday night (while he was still at work). And not just for his belly... but I made a few dozen extra for him to take to his techs the next day.

Not just score.
But double score.

His response, besides the expected "Nomm Nomm Nommm"...?

1. Surprise your guy with his favorite treat, he'll love it.
2. Milk in a non-covered glass does not travel well.
3. It takes a WHOLE 10 minutes to prep and 10 minutes to bake (per 2 dozen) not 10 hours. Do it already.

How to Seduce your Guy in 31 Days [Day 3]

Yes, I could clearly and purposefully go with the most common definition of a sext message. But, let me assure you, I am going to keep it rated PG-13.

See?! Mostly innocent around here.

Generally, the husband and I text about pretty basic stuff.

"Why won't you answer my call?"

"The kids are KILLING me."

"Go hard."

"*go ahead. I meant go ahead."

"Lunch monies?"

"Just warning you. I have a headache."

If I had an iPhone, I could do a neat little screen shot to show you. But I don't. I have an Android. Deal.

See, basic stuff. But every once in a while, I work hard to send him a sweet & loving message. Something more than the usual "Luv u." 

I want to let my partner know how much I adore him. And that even if we are both dealing with craziness in our days, I am thinking about him.

Something along the lines of:

Things are downright insane right now, but then I thought about you possibly coming home early, and my gut starting to tingle.  ♥

Or:

Hey, babe. Wanted to let you know I was thinking of you. Hope you are having a good day.

Or even:

Be ready. [Jump. Your. Bones.] :D

Really, it can be ANYTHING but the ordinary. No grocery lists (unless every other item is sweet or sexy). No whining about the damn toilet seat or the rolled up socks in the dryer. Send the unexpected text and wait for his response.

Personally, I can't wait to read what my dude sends back.

Okay, so he's a man of few words. Can't fault him for that.

Rating:

Lessons Learned:

1. Get an iPhone so I can take screen shots of my text messages.
2. Send lots of sweet text messages to my man throughout the week. But don't over do it; he could start checking the bank statements and realize I may have an addiction to Wendy's and Hobby Lobby. At the same time.
3. Say what you FEEL. Even if it is a little naughty. ;)

How to Seduce your Guy in 31 Days [Day 2]

Maybe for you it's a given. A "Duh-UH!" moment, even. However, I HATE shaving my legs. And to say that the husband has been patient and understanding is an understatement. I can count on one hand the times he's actually said something about it.

Realize, I am not walking around looking like an Ape. I do live in Arizona where we live in shorts and flip flops 9 months out of the year. But, to keep things in on the real, I will say that there are times I've stepped outside in shorts and long leg hair. As if it were a fashion statement.

I decided to do something about the leg hair and I wanted it to be more than just shaving but less than removal by laser (at this point, anyways).

So I went to my local drug store and gawked at the many options available. The prices were STEEP and the products were many.

I decided to try this Nair product out. It was not a simple decision. Standing in that aisle, I immediately went back to that place, to the memory files in my brain. I remember the first (and last) time I used Nair. It wasn't pretty. And it hurt.

I went ahead and picked out their new Spa Clay stuff. I followed the directions to the T  and adhered to all of the warnings (don't drink it, don't use it on your eyeballs, etc). And... IT WORKED!!

And believe you me, I let the hairs grow for DAYS before I Nair'd. I could have seriously donated to Locks of Love, people...

I swear, Nair don't care about who I am and they have no idea I am posting about this. But I had to share. This ain't your momma's Nair. The smell was okay. It was easy to apply and massage off.

The results?!

SMOOTH-A**-NESS. Seriously. The boyfriend couldn't keep his hands OFF. It's been over a week, and I am still in the clear (of leg hair, not him).

Rating:

Lessons Learned:

1. The husband loves my legs sans hair.
2. Nair isn't so bad anymore and it actually works.
3. Wearing sunglasses does not hide my leg hair from others.

TGFP!

I am knee-deep in loading up the formals. It feels so good to get to this part. Finally!
Of course, it is October 1, so that means eventually the Halloween decor needs to come out. But I figured I'd wait until after we get back from San Fran... give us some time to enjoy the new rooms sans pumpkins and witches and goblins, oh my.

Because we won't have the big reveal until end of week, here are a few pics to tide you over...

It looks like we could go up one more layer of Billy bookcases. We may just do that!!

Here's a guy you've probably never seen before, and the reason for the title of this post:

You can say that again, sister.
Thank God for Pinterest.

We have these great couches that are microfiber and well over 7 years old. Structurally, they are fantastic. But as you can see... they've seen better days as far as stains go.

Between Nic and the dogs... ouch.

This loveseat and its mate (an eight foot replica) have been in the loft since we moved in. However, my momma needed to pick up her couch that she had stored over here (Goodbye Mr. Santa Fe!), which left us sans seating in our new biblioteca.

So, Alex and Isa brought down this sweetie pie yesterday and I got to work trying to figure out how to clean it. I found this post pinned on Pinterest... and it looked like it just might work.

I sent Alex to Walgreens for the sponges and an extra large bottle of alcohol.
The rubbing kind, of course.

It took some elbow grease (wait, maybe that's what I removed with said cleaning?!) - either way, it looks MUCH better. For now, anyway. Eventually, I may find a slip cover for it.

I even took the cushions out and washed the covers in the washing machine on Hand Wash. They came out great. Forgot to take a before picture though. Oops.

I am going to spend some time during the next day or two loading everything back in... and I will be back with more pics soon! In the meantime, be sure to check out my 31 days series... :)

How to Seduce your Guy in 31 Days [Day 1]

I approached Nester's challenge much like I approach any task or project at work. I grabbed a spiral notebook and a pen and started a brainstorming session. Because I had already done some thinking about what topic I wanted to cover, I already had some ideas about what I wanted to accomplish during this challenge.

That's really the first step. Ask yourself what you want to accomplish. Then figure out how you are going to accomplish it. Set goals. And make sure they are SMART.

S   - I want to seduce my guy.
M - I will measure his reactions using the following scale:

A - He's a guy, of course anything I come up with is attainable. Right?!
R - Keep the focus on HIM or US. Make it relevant.
T - I have thirty-one days to knock his socks off. And I am taking it one day at a time.


So why do I want to seduce my guy, you ask?
The husband is my best friend. I've lived with him as long as I lived with my own parents. That feels huge to me, I'm only 35, people. The husband and I met shortly before our 17th birthdays and we were married shortly after we turned 18. We grew up together and we grew comfortable together.

We are still VERY much in love. I think we have a fantastic relationship. We are friends first and foremost, always. Even after all these years, there is still PASSION in our marriage. There is. But above all that, there is the ordinary. The same stuff that happens, day-after-day. It's part of life, I get that.

Because the husband and I are so comfortable around each other, I take so much for granted. Maybe we both do. I will have to ask him. The bathroom door? Lucky if it ever gets shut. Pajamas? Boring. Pasta? Again?!

The guy loves me for who I am, without a doubt. But, I want him to know how much I love him by changing things up a little. Working a little harder for his attention. He's not complained at all, which is a bonus. He's not straying (I assure you, in case it crossed your mind). This is nothing serious like that. The purpose behind this challenge is to re-energize what we have. Make things better than they are. And they are damn good, so this will definitely be a challenge.

The next 30 days is just a testament to how much I love and adore my husband. And how much I want him to feel loved and adored. 

I am going to be open and honest. I am going to share his responses (where I can). ;) And I am going to try to find what works, what I can keep up with and what I should never have thought of. Because I am sure there will be some of those moments during the next month or so. :D

I have 30 more days full of ideas, some where I focus on myself to offer to him. (Does that make sense?!) And some ideas that are focused on the family, to make things better at home. And some ideas that are 100% focused on my dreamboat. Or, in case Usher is not available, I will focus on Marcos.

I kid. I kid.

Stay tuned.